Raise your hand if you’ve ever skipped applying for a job because you thought, “I don’t meet all the criteria, so what’s the point?”🙋‍♀️ You’re not alone.

The belief that we’re not enough is like a pandemic, affecting our ability to pursue dreams, whether it’s moving overseas, starting a business, or simply living authentically. You hear it in everyday conversations, at work, with friends, or during family gatherings – there’s always someone sharing a story about their day or week, where you can pick up on their dissatisfaction or frustration. This mindset can prevent us from receiving gifts without guilt or believing in a brighter future.

Often, the idea of not being enough stems from childhood experiences. Many of us grew up striving to meet our parents’ expectations, receiving rewards, prizes, or surprises only when we did something that pleased them. We might have heard comparisons to others who seemed to be doing better or exhibiting preferred behaviors, or we were reminded of what we lacked. These early messages can deeply influence our self-perception, leading us to internalize the belief that we must constantly prove our worth.

I remember multiple times when I hesitated to apply for jobs I really wanted because I didn’t meet every single requirement. I felt like an imposter, doubting my abilities and worth. It wasn’t until my dissatisfaction turned into a miserable attitude in my then job that I was prompted to change. This dissatisfaction became a catalyst, pushing me to confront the feeling of not being enough. It forced me to dig deeper, to challenge those limiting beliefs, and to take action despite feeling unready or incomplete. Through this process, I discovered that I was enough and had exactly what I needed to pursue my goals. By embracing this realization, I was able to move forward with confidence and determination, knowing that I could achieve what I set my mind to.

To start feeling good enough, it’s essential to be aware of our thoughts and how we behave or respond, as this awareness is key to transformation.

Practices to Support Self-Worth:

1. Reframe Your Beliefs:

Start telling yourself that you are enough, even if you don’t yet believe it. The belief that you’re not worthy is often rooted in past experiences or childhood events. It’s a lie that you’ve internalized, but you have the power to change it. The language you use will reinforce your thoughts, which prompt your emotions and then your actions. By consciously choosing positive language, you can begin to shift your mindset.

2. Understand Your Mind:

Your brain believes what you tell it. If you constantly reinforce the idea that you’re enough, your subconscious will start to accept it as truth. As the saying goes, “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” This means that your thoughts have the power to shape your reality, so choose them wisely.

3. Affirmations

We constantly affirm our feelings, limitations, possibilities and sense of reality or normal, with our thoughts and words every day. Write positive affirmations on your mirror or post-it notes. Stick them up on your mirror, wardrobe, desk, or laptop. Support them by taking action, e.g., “I am healthy and calm”- go for a walk. Recite them out loud day or night, or turn them into songs you hum and sing. Notice how a love song can leave you feeling sad or hopeful? That’s like your self-talk. “I am designing a better future every day” – do that one thing that will help improve your business, relationship, career, or life skills now. It’s not enough to tell yourself “I am fit and strong” if you’re not doing something to support that.

4. Journaling:

Journal about your strengths and achievements. This practice helps reinforce your self-worth and shifts your mindset. You have daily wins, even if they seem small – they’re important! Reflecting on these can help you see your progress and build confidence in your abilities. “From little things, big things grow.”🫶

5. Acknowledge Challenges:

Recognize that everyone faces difficulties. Acknowledge the challenges you’re experiencing and remind yourself that it’s okay to find them tough. You’re human, and you’re capable of overcoming them. There are endless resources and possibilities at our fingertips just through our phones and the internet -solutions are out there. Embrace the learning process and know that each challenge is an opportunity for growth.

6. Do Things for You:

Engage in activities that challenge or scare you. Pushing your boundaries helps build resilience, shows your brain what you’re capable of, and reinforces your sense of enoughness. Even if it’s scary, it doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Each step outside your comfort zone is a step toward greater self-assurance.

7. Embrace Imperfection:

Perfection doesn’t exist, and life would be boring without surprises or challenges. If everything always went your way, would you truly value it the same? Growth helps us feel alive and grounded, offering more to look forward to and potentially adding more joy to our lives than we might expect.

8. Level Up Your Standards:

You only need to be enough according to your own standards, and you can condition yourself to see it that way by affirming this in moments of doubt. Remind yourself that your life is your own and that you are making progress. The most important relationship you have is with yourself, as it influences all other aspects of your life – career, finances, social connections, and more.

Embracing that you are enough can be a journey or a decision made in a moment. Remember, you can’t please everyone, but you will impress the right people who appreciate you for who you are. By shifting your mindset and reinforcing your self-worth, you can break free from the constraints of not feeling enough and live a more authentic, fulfilling life.

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