Starting a service-based business can feel overwhelming, especially with the abundance of advice and perceived necessities out there. I craved creative, time, and financial freedom, and imagined what it would be like to invest the same energy I gave to someone else’s dream into my own. This led me to explore various side hustle ideas and dive into roles as a social media and virtual assistant. Through trial and error, I discovered that many things I thought were essential were actually holding me back.

Here are five things you might think you need to start a service based business, but actually don’t: 

1. A “Perfect” Plan

While planning is important, waiting for the “perfect” plan can hold you back. Procrastination and self-sabotage often stem from this mindset. An idea is enough to start with; putting it out there will provide feedback to refine and evolve your offerings. You can start with just 5-10 hours a week—time you can find by reducing social media use or streaming shows.

🙋‍♀️What I’d Do Differently: Instead of chasing every freebie and podcast, getting distracted thinking, “What if I need this? What if after this I’ll be ready instead?” I would have invested in one solid strategy from the start. This would have saved me countless hours and reduced confusion, allowing me to focus on action rather than perfection.

2. A Large Budget

You don’t need a huge investment to get started. Maintaining a day or night job can help you gradually invest in essential business tools. Focus on tools that provide an online presence for your clients, and expand as you earn.

🙋‍♀️What I’d Do Differently: I would have worked with a coach from the beginning. Not following through on your idea can cost you a lot more emotionally, physically and spiritually—just think about a time you wished you did something different. A coach can provide the support, encouragement and perspective needed to move forward confidently. There’s nothing like having conversations with someone who gets it, that prevents overthinking and recognizing you’re more than ready and enough to live what you’ve dreamed.

3. A Pretty Website

You could waste a months to a year trying to DIY a website. A website can wait until you have paying clients and clear feedback. Nowadays, there are many all-in-one tools offering streamlined solutions for presenting offers, booking calls, emailing and managing payments.

🙋‍♀️What I’d Do Differently: I wish I had started with a simple one-page website or landing page. This would have saved me time, energy and money—oh lawdd the amount of free trials and paid versions I tried😆—allowing me to focus on building the more important aspects of my business.

4. A “Big” Social Media Following

While social media is useful, it’s not essential to start. After being hacked, I realized that social media is just one tool among many. Personal connections can be more valuable initially.

🙋‍♀️What I’d Do Differently: Being hacked reminded me that social media is just an extension of tools you have to share your wisdom, encourage and connect with others, it’s not your whole identity. If you haven’t been posting, because you’ve been more present in your day to day happenings-that’s more than okay! I would have reached out to my personal network for support and referrals, rather than relying solely on social media. This approach is more personal and often more effective.

5. XYZ Experience or Certification

You likely already have the experience needed to start. Many successful entrepreneurs began just a step ahead of those they served. Focus on being of service and solving problems for others.

🙋‍♀️What I’d Do Differently: While certifications can be affirming of what you already know and do, deep reflection on your existing skills and experiences is invaluable. You’ve been through a lot in your lifetime-all your lessons, skills and experiences matter! The same as point 1, I would have invested in a coach earlier for strategic support and accountability.

Starting a service-based business doesn’t require a perfect plan, a large budget, a pretty website, a big social media following, or extensive experience. Focus on what truly matters: your passion, your willingness to serve, and your ability to decide to take action. Ditch the trap of not starting “until I have… then I can…” You can begin with one idea, a few hours a week.

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Balancing societal and family expectations with personal truth can be challenging, especially for those who feel unseen or unheard. Staying true to oneself is crucial for living a fulfilling life. 

When you’re raised with the belief that you “owe your life” to your parents, fulfilling their dreams can feel heavy. This is common among first-generation children of immigrants or those whose parents often reminded them of their sacrifices, making it feel like a burden to eventually succeed and support them. 

These expectations are often inherited from previous generations, but they don’t define you. Living to please others means living someone else’s dreams, which can leave you feeling lost and aimless. If this resonates with you, I feel you! 

Growing up, I was the daughter who spoke up, challenging the status quo. I didn’t realize I was being true to myself until I studied abroad and saw shifts in my relationships and self-perception. Despite societal expectations to follow a traditional path—get good grades, secure a good job, buy a house—I initially chased someone else’s dream, trying to work in companies for roles that looked good on paper. I was striving for a sense of achievement that wasn’t truly mine. Eventually the exhaustion from trying to keep up, led to a melt down and empowered me to continue pursuing a path that felt right and good to me, living in different countries and developing new interests. 

Becoming a single mom was another challenge. I had to balance my independence with the needs of my child. It was a shock to my system, but I was determined not to repeat my parents’ patterns. I wanted to write a new story, one where I would be fulfilled and show my daughter that life is what we make of it—it can be bliss versus a never ending struggle. 

Societal and family pressures can lead to self-doubt, like not feeling enough or worthy, impacting personal identity and mental well-being. These expectations are often self-imposed, based on inherited beliefs. It’s important to become aware of these beliefs and change them to align with your true self. Staying untrue to yourself usually takes a negative toll on your thoughts, emotions, and actions, resulting in the opposite of what you desire. It’s essential to recognize and change disempowering narratives. 

Here’s how you can practice staying true to yourself amid outside expectations: 

1. Remember Your Joy 

Focus on creating your desired life experience. You’re in control of your thoughts and can create more of what you desire. You’re responsible for adding to your own happiness—not anyone outside of you. 

2. Self-Reflection 

Use a daily journal to write your goals as if they’re already achieved. Make your desired success feel familiar. Regularly check in on your core values and progress. 

3. Authenticity

Engage in activities that light you up daily, weekly, and monthly. This practice helps maintain motivation and inspiration. 

4. Notice Your Energy

Pay attention to how you feel around people and activities. Positive associations will prompt you to take aligned action and guide you toward fulfillment. Anything that feels off or contractive, walk away, let it go, don’t wait. 

5. Set Boundaries

 Say no to negativity. Communicate your goals to friends and family, and don’t let their interpretations affect you. Even if they disagree, it’s not personal; it’s how they’re internalizing and processing it. You can do this! 

6. Mind Your Language

Focus on empowering language and solutions. Change the narrative of your life-choose to practice gratitude and appreciation, for yourself and others. 

7. Listen to Your Intuition

Trust your instincts–that voice inside of you that’s open to spontaneity and learning. Pay attention to those moments where you think and feel, “I just know.” 

8. Conscious Decision

Making Ensure your responses align with your true intentions, not influenced by others’ emotions or reactions. 

9. Build a Supportive Community

Surround yourself with people who share your interests and goals. A supportive community can be transformative. 

10. Discipline + Trust = Breakthrough

This is my theme for the year❤️‍🔥! Decide to commit to your health and happiness every day. Consistent practice leads to breakthroughs. 

Staying true to yourself amid expectations requires self-awareness, boundary-setting, and a commitment to your joy and authenticity.

It’s not always easy, and you will experience resistance, yet that weight lifts when you know who you are and what you want in life. Remember, while some may need to see your journey to believe in it, those who are truly meant for you will support and stay by your side as you embrace your authentic self. By sharing relatable experiences and practical strategies, I hope to inspire you to live a life aligned with your true self. Remember, your journey is unique, and you have the power to create the life you desire. 

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Living abroad is a dream for many, but how do you make it affordable? Here are some tips from my adventure, in hopes it can help aspiring solo expats with their decisions. Remember, everyone’s experience is unique, and while it wasn’t always easy, I wouldn’t change a thing. Each challenge helped me grow and become happier with my choices.

Embrace the Unknown

I started each expat experience by winging it because the fear of missing out on life’s possibilities was greater than the fear of leaving things behind. Staying put also held its share of uncertainties, so I chose the excitement of new places and people over the familiar. Living in Tampa, FL, during a study abroad ignited my travel bug, followed by stints in Makati, Philippines, Toronto, Canada, and London, UK. These experiences taught me that you don’t need a credit card to start your journey—a debit mastercard or debit visa can get you going!

10 Ways to Afford Living Abroad:

1. Sell What You Can:

Purging is cleansing for the soul! Anything you haven’t used in six months or have kept “in case,” can go. All you really need is a place to shower, cook, and sleep. This mindset shift helped me focus on experiences over possessions.

2. Working Holiday Visas:

For ages 18-30 (35 in some countries), these visas allow you to work and explore for up to two years. This was my ticket to immersing myself in local cultures and using each location as a base for further travel. If you’re looking for a gap year or want to do some soul searching, I’d highly recommend it! 

3. Re-evaluate Priorities:

Studying abroad taught me the value of investing in experiences over material goods. Funds for activities and meeting new people feed your soul in a lasting way that stuff doesn’t.

4. Avoid Unnecessary Purchases:

My younger self would’ve cringed at the thought of living without a wall of bags or racks of shoes. But when shiny “Sale” signs pop up, walk away or unsubscribe! I learned to ask, “Do I really need this? Or will it gather dust and be forgotten?” before buying.

5. Meal Prep:

Save money and time by preparing meals for the week, allowing funds for weekend adventures. This habit allowed me to enjoy dining out without guilt.

6. Choose Free Activities:

Walk instead of taking the tram, train or Uber where possible, and seek out free events to enjoy the local culture. I found joy in exploring new streets, surprises of pop ups, historic architecture and discovering hidden gems, while getting fitter and happier being outside.

7. Beauty on a Budget: 

I don’t need to see you, to know you’re beautiful as you are! Though I do understand that occasional pampering or a trim is nice to have. You can join Facebook groups to access affordable beauty services from students or stylists in training–think lashes, hair coloring, hair cuts and massages. You can feel fresh and look on point without breaking the bank.

8. Re-Style Your Clothes:

Mix and match to pack lighter and invest in quality pieces that last. A few staple tank tops can go a long way! If you need to replace another item, why not stroll to a thrift store and pay $5, $10 or $20 vs. $100.

9. No FOMO:

Nights with drinks on tab can leave you in regret the morning after, especially if you don’t quite remember them😆 Focus on meaningful experiences instead. True enjoyment comes from the company and experiences you share, not the price tag.

10. RAK and Hostels:

Networking and random acts of kindness opened up couch-surfing and house sitting opportunities. Choosing hostels made it easy to be central and affordable to get set up–interviews, phone, bank. You never know what discounts you can score or friendships you can gain by being in hostels—and there are nice ones out there!

While this post leans towards minimalist travel, I didn’t start that way. I remember being surrounded by things I thought I needed, only to realize that the true value lay in the investment of experiences, resulting memories, soul fam connections and life skills I was gaining, not accumulating possessions.

You don’t need 10 years of savings to begin a journey overseas or anyone else to green light the “right time.” The only certainty you’ve got, is now. Once you value your energy and existence this way, you ensure none of it will go to looking back and wondering, “What if I did…XYZ…?”

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“Being healthy” is so much more than eating veggies. I wasn’t always someone who understood this. From a young age, my idea of health was limited to what I ate, or having a cold and flu. 

Through my certification as a Holistic Health Coach at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, founder Joshua Rosenthal shared a way of looking at health that affirmed what my beliefs had grown into. Your primary food—off the plate factors like relationships, career, spirituality, physical activity, and creativity—greatly impacts your emotions and physical health. It can override what goes on your plate. For example, chronic stress from an unsatisfying job can accelerate aging, cause sleeplessness, and lead to weight gain.

Your secondary food—what’s on your plate—is directly influenced by this primary nutrition. When your life feels out of balance, it can feel harder to want to meal prep or make healthy food choices consistently.

True well-being encompasses everything you consume—on and off the plate. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to health. What makes you feel alive and whole will be unique to you. You could eat “perfectly” and still feel unhealthy if those around you are draining, your job is soul-crushing, or your inner critic is constantly on overdrive.

From childhood into my early twenties, my own holistic health was out of whack, and I didn’t even realize it. Snappiness, confusion, jealousy, frustration—were my “normal” states. I didn’t just eat a lot; I ate for comfort when I felt upset. I used shopping as a way to cope with feeling angry or stressed. I was aimless, often bored, seeking attention through others or escaping through drinking, to fill that void. Along with breakouts and constant fatigue, it took nearly a decade of actively changing things to truly feel good from the inside out—for more than when all things seemed to be working out. 

The holistic health transformation I’ve experienced—from a self-proclaimed lonely, lost couch potato fueled by processed foods, to someone who is active, passion-driven, and craves whole foods—wasn’t about a restrictive diet. It was about how GOOD life became and how complete I’d feel, when prioritized, nurtured, taken care of, mind, body, and soul. To feel confident and at home in your body, or stop the need to be validated by someone else in order to feel worthy—that comes when you know, love, and be yourself fully.

Here are five key steps that help you redefine reality into your version of living healthier and happier:

1. Connect with Your “Why” Now

Reflect on your current sense of purpose. How does it integrate with your career, relationships, and day-to-day life? 

E.g. I believe my transformation and the experiences that contributed to it, led to my purpose to help women who struggled with self-doubt like I did. Reflection and feedback prompted my shift in careers to include this and use what I love as tools to helps others.

2. Recognize the Mind-Body-Spirit Connection

You’re not a robot. You’re a human living a complex life. Think of spirituality as what is meaningful and important to you—and the ripple effect it has on your thoughts, self-belief, feelings, and actions. Does your job serve you beyond working to pay bills? How is it affecting your relationships or eating habits? Are you moving your body in a way that feels best for you? Are you creating an impact for others that aligns with your personal values? E.g. Lack of spiritual fulfilment can manifest as a sense of emptiness and dissatisfaction, while causing trouble sleeping or feeling heavy in the body. Nothing about you is separate.

3. Explore Your Root Causes

Dig deeper than surface-level symptoms. Are limiting beliefs or past experiences contributing to imbalances in your life? E.g. Growing up, I always heard there was “not enough” of things like food or money. Believing this limited my ability to see the abundance and resources really around me. I wasn’t able to be appreciative or grateful, because my focus was on what was lacking, instead of what is or can be.

4. Define Your Long-Term Vision

Visualize beyond what is now, for this too shall pass. What does feeling truly healthy look and feel like for you in the long run? Without this, it’s easy to feel lost, aimless and as if there’s no point to our efforts. Having a vision of what you want life to be like, gives you goals to work towards, achieve, then set new ones as you grow—ultimately allowing you to feel consistently happy.

5. Commit to Wellness as a Lifestyle

This isn’t a quick fix. Think about sustainable changes so you can take action daily. E.g. Learning to move my body every morning at 04:30 started out with working my way back on the clock, from 06:30 to 06:00 to 05:00. Meal prep on Sunday mornings made it easier to keep up with day to day demands. Daily discipline even when I was tired or didn’t feel like it, organically led to improving my energy, outlook on life, finding hobbies I never thought I’d love and connecting with a individuals who influenced my chosen career.

Steer Clear of Quick Fixes—Choose What’s Sustainable Long-Term:

Fads and short-term diets tend to fail because they don’t address the underlying imbalances in your primary nutrition. For example, to see lasting results after a six-week fitness program, you need a mindset, habits and for many, a like minded community, to support eating without feeling deprived, making choices that align with how you want to feel, waking up early, or committing lunch breaks to moving your body. True wellness requires a holistic approach, time for your entire life to adapt, and openness to evolve.

Navigating Your Unique Path to Health:

It’s important to remember that everyone has a unique story that shapes their values and creates their version of “healthy.” You might encounter friends or family who don’t understand your desire for change. Respect their journey while staying true to your own. What resonates with one person may not resonate with another, and that’s okay.

Remember:

Starting to live healthier is about more than just food. Embracing holistic health acts as a powerful bio hack and preventive measure, enhancing your current well-being and fortifying future health. By prioritizing the interconnectedness of mind, body, and spirit, and understanding how your environment and relationships impact your well-being, you proactively address imbalances. Connect with your purpose, explore root causes, and commit to a lifestyle filled with what you love, unlocking lasting energy and vibrant health.

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Ever felt like social media was draining your energy rather than inspiring you?

For the first time in years, I stopped feeling aligned with my purpose and state of being. My sleep was a mess, my enthusiasm depleted, and my sense of self felt increasingly fragmented. Over a year ago, I decided to step back from social media. This wasn’t a retreat of failure, but an act of much-needed self-love, reclaiming my time and energy for deeper self-exploration and healing.

What did survival mode look like?

It was often those stolen moments after my daughter fell asleep, reaching for my phone, and aiming to ‘do nothing’ through scrolling. Instead of solace, I found myself even more exhausted and disconnected. Adding to this was the lingering impact of being hacked almost two years prior, losing a lifetime of overseas memories and contacts on my Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp. This fueled a deeper desire to build something more substantial, like this blog, to connect with and empower women on a more meaningful and lasting level.

An attempt to live with my parents and lighten the load as a single mum brought its own set of pressures. There were moments I felt that sting of shame, feeling not where I ‘should’ be according to some invisible timeline. Establishing new routines with a little one and navigating family dynamics presented daily challenges. I saw myself start mirroring the limitations I’d fought to escape. The turning point was seeing how resurfacing old patterns were seeping into my relationship with my daughter.

Yet, within these hurdles, I discovered a profound truth: there is immense power in choosing to pause, reclaim your time with a social media detox, honestly reassess, and begin anew. The past year away from trying to keep up with what’s online has been a season of deep internal growth.

Taking back the 1-2 hours a day I’d typically lose to the scroll meant:

💚 Reclaiming 7+ hours a week to focus on prioritizing my health holistically—practicing presence, exploring new movement practices, and revisiting the spiritual practices that grounded me during my expat adventures. I found calm and strength in modifying my routines.

💚 Breaking the cycle of late-night phone grabs, emotional shopping, and stress from lack of sleep.

💚 Finally taking up surfing (a bucket list item from my twenties!) and being reminded to be more flexible, releasing rigid expectations and embracing the ebb and flow of life as a single mum.

This pause allowed for a re-evaluation of what truly mattered for where I’m at now, owning my choices—the ultimate power we each have:

🙌 Reclaiming my wellbeing on another level to wake up early again, healing old wounds and triggers.

🙌 As a mum, I felt the weight of wanting my pre-baby routine and life back, and this detox allowed me to come into acceptance of my additional role as a mum 24/7.

🙌 Seeing that moving at a slower pace doesn’t mean failure if you remain consistent.

🙌 Only having more of the right, uplifting, supportive and productive conversations.

🙌 Thanks to seeking a coach, it brought a significant shift in my niche and realizing my passion is in supporting women to show up despite any less than ideal circumstances—even if their families or friends don’t always understand. 💖

If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind, please know you are not alone.

My journey of stepping back from social media taught me the power of pausing can be exactly what you need to quiet your ego, clear your mind and focus on what’s important to you. By prioritizing my wellbeing, embracing new experiences, and accepting my role as a mum, I found renewed strength and purpose. Preferring to spend more time on myself, with my daughter or being of service 1:1. If you’ve found yourself overwhelmed, struggling to have time or energy, remember that sometimes the most courageous and productive thing you can do is grant yourself grace to reconnect with what nourishes your soul.

If any part of my story resonates with your own experiences, I see you! You’re doing the best you can, with what you’ve got and what you know – you’re ever evolving!

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Solo travel is the number one way I’d recommend a journey of self-discovery and adventure. It’s a powerful teacher and empowers you to build essential life skills, while getting to see how unconquerable, mind, body and spirit you can be. 

However, due to stories on the news or the amount of movies loosely based on real events like being stuck in the mountains, kidnapping or tourists being forgotten, I know it can make many women hesitant to venture overseas. Unfortunate and uncontrollable events can happen anywhere, anytime, it’s true.

What we can do is prioritize our safety for additional peace of mind. Conversations with other travelers I’ve met along the way, each with their own tales of navigating the unexpected, helped me to narrow in on these tips, as a little preparation goes a long way.

Here are 10 safety tips to help ensure you feel secure on your solo travels:

1. Prepare Important Documents and Copies:

If your passport or other critical documents are lost or stolen, having copies will significantly expedite the replacement process. Trust me, various events like needing to prove I was legit at a Mexican border, supporting study, work and/or permanent residency applications across different continents, have been part of my personal need to have these organized. While having spoken to other travelers has provided insight for similar situations, or they encountered theft, loss of valuables like a phone and passport in one go, needing to get help from afar, these backups are non-negotiable. 

Action: Create a list of emergency contacts. Make photocopies or digital scans of your passport, driver’s license (have photo ID copies notarized e.g. my local pharmacy charges $1 for this), visa and travel insurance. You can store these copies in a password protected USB while you travel. Share a copy with family or close friends back home.

2. Get Comprehensive Travel Insurance:

Depending on your destination and trip duration, some Customs Officers may request proof of travel insurance. It’s also invaluable if your baggage is lost, delayed, flights are disrupted, or you require medical attention. So far I’ve not had too many mishaps, other than needing to see a doctor and have an MRI, but I’ve known travelers who’ve had incidents of having their rental car hit and needing to sort complex payments, or things stolen and had the insurance to back them up – stories that definitely reinforced the ‘just in case’ mentality for me. 

Action: Invest in it. If you can’t afford travel insurance, reconsider if you can truly afford the trip. I’ve used and recommended World Nomads for their straightforward coverage.

3. Fully Understand Your Insurance Coverage:

Knowing the specifics of your travel insurance policy supports your peace of mind and effective claims. It’s not just about having insurance; it’s about knowing what it actually covers in those ‘what if’ scenarios e.g. you have pre-existing conditions or are doing extreme sports.

Action: Add your insurance company information to your contacts. Read your insurance policy to understand what is and isn’t covered. Pay attention to exclusions, processing times, claim procedures, and emergency contact numbers – add to your contacts. Keep a digital and hard copy of your policy readily accessible.

4. Check Country Travel Updates:

Staying informed about travel advisories and potential risks will always be useful in pre-planning. Social unrest has caused airports to close and mother nature sweeps landscapes. Save yourself from wondering or feeling unprepared, especially if you go somewhere you might not know the language or local customs intimately. 

Action: Check your government’s travel advisory website e.g. Smartraveller for Australians. Register your travel plans if there are government sites, including your destinations and travel dates.

5. Save Consulate Information:

Having your country’s consulate or embassy contact information (in the country you’re going to) ready available can be crucial in unforeseen circumstances. While I’ve never personally needed to contact them, knowing where they are and who else you can call provides a sense of security that you’ve got your bases covered. It’s like having a safety net you hope you never need to use. 

Action: Save the contact details in your phone and on paper. Ensure your phone contacts are synced with your email account for access from any device.

6. Share Your Itinerary and Real-Time Progress:

Keeping loved ones informed about your plans and location/s can be that ‘just in case’ support to check in and make sure you’ve arrived at your destination, or when to expect you home. It also allows them to share in your journey, even from afar, connecting you even when you’re solo. 

Action: Send calendar invites with your trip details to your roommate, close friends or family, including flight information, accommodation addresses, planned activities with what tour provider, and relevant website links. You can use apps like Citymapper or Google Maps to share your real-time location and estimated arrival times, especially when traveling at night or in unfamiliar areas. Establish a regular check-in schedule if required depending on the type of trip E.g. bi-weekly or monthly. 

7. Practice Street Smarts and Trust Your Gut Instincts:

As women, we’re often acutely aware of our surroundings. Trusting your intuition is a powerful tool – not to go down that dark alley, leaving a scene when it gets uncomfortable, turning right instead of left. It’s that inner voice that has often guided me in unfamiliar situations and it’s something I encourage every solo female traveler to tune into. 

Action: Depending on your destination, it can be best to avoid displaying expensive jewelry, designer clothing, or flashy gadgets unless you are using private transportation. Be mindful when walking in unfamiliar areas, especially at night. Ask your hotel or hostel for maps and directions. Pay attention to your gut, goose bumps or hair raising tingles. If something feels off, it’s okay to change your plans, take a different route, or leave the situation.

8. Be Mindful of Local Customs:

When I moved overseas I learnt that instead of trying to make people see my way, get or do things I would’ve back in Australia, limited my experiences. Being open-minded and willing to immerse in how the locals do, shows respect for their culture, enriches your travel and connects you to people you never would’ve met otherwise. While challenging any stereotypes or prejudices, this opens doors for new understanding and perspective shifts that help you appreciate who you are and what you have.  

Action: Research the local customs and dress codes of your destination. E.g., countries like Thailand and the Philippines are generally conservative in dress. Observe and practice local greetings or mannerisms.

9. Don’t Overshare Personal Information: 

While most people you meet will be friendly and kind, be mindful about sharing too much personal information with strangers. Remember, you’re building connections, not necessarily writing your autobiography to everyone you encounter. 

Action: Be selective about the information you share with new acquaintances. Be mindful revealing your accommodation details, daily routines, or financial information.

10. Be Aware of Potential Scams: 

Tourists are often targets for scams-accommodation, events, activities. Being aware of what’s going on in your destination can help you avoid them. A little research here can save you a lot of stress and financial hiccups down the line. 

Action: Research common scams in your destination before you travel. Be wary of overly friendly strangers,  and unsolicited offers.

Solo travel is an incredible opportunity for spiritual growth (think what’s meaningful and important to you), personal and professional growth – it truly throws you into situations that reveal your resilience. 

What you encounter overrides things you used to see as issues, not relevant or problems at all. I found that it helps you learn to accept what you can’t change, while realizing how much you can. Remember, being prepared doesn’t mean being fearful; it means being an empowered and responsible adventurer, ready to embrace all the diversity, beauty and growth that traveling offers.

These tips allowed me to learn how to go with the flow and focus on best case scenarios, because at the end of each day all we can do is control our thoughts and actions. Anything else to support our peace of mind is an investment in our overall wellbeing. 

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“To Thine Own Self Be True”-Shakespeare. We all had to dissect that in school, right? It’s never been more relevant than now. Scrolling through Insta, seeing those “perfect” lives, or even just hanging out with friends, it’s easy to get caught up thinking, “I wish I was more like them.”

I remember often being measured against someone I admired during my elementary school days into adulthood. She was perfect on paper, kind, caring, and when around her, I would overhear compliments on how beautiful she was. In middle school and high school, when I’d been teased about my features because of my family origins, I began to hate the things others picked out and wished I was her. I used skin whitening products, which caused adverse reactions; I tried to dress like popular kids and act like other teens, but somehow still never quite felt like I belonged. All of it was exhausting and left me looking in the mirror unsatisfied with who I was and my life.

Being compared to from a young age with others, and situations, we tend to become afraid of rejection, failure or judgment. We hear what we’re not and don’t have, conditioned to focus on what’s lacking or outside standards. We watch our energy decline and start to believe we’re incomplete or unworthy.

Just as we learnt to doubt ourselves, we can unlearn it and reprogram our minds to pay attention to what we have, what we can learn and the power we hold to create limitless solutions. It wasn’t until I bounced out of the country to study then live abroad, that I finally started to shake off other people’s opinions. Being totally out of my comfort zone forced me to know, love and be myself by exploring new practices.

Here are 10 practices to help stop comparing yourself:

1. Reconnect With Your Authentic Self and Dreams:

I recommend this foundational step for anyone wanting to overcome self-doubt to do first. Before you can stop comparing you need a strong sense of who you are and what you truly want, in order to have the clarity which will support the rest of your practices. It wasn’t until my late twenties that I gave attention to this and I wish I did sooner! This is how I started to redefine my own reality and answer – who am I, what do I want to be, how can I do it and what will life look like if…When you’re in touch with what’s important and meaningful to you, and you set goals that light you up, distractions of waiting for perfect or comparing melt away. You see a compelling vision that plays out successfully in your mind’s eye. You hear an undeniable “yes” that echoes within your core, a powerful internal dialogue fuels your actions. You feel an intuitive pull that urges you into motion. Then a strategy forms. You think about it day and night, until it’s achieved, then you create a new vision. 

Practice: Prioritize time after doing something you love, to hone in on your core values and desires.    Then reflect on what your purpose is now and ask yourself if you’re living it. If not – how will it integrate with all other aspects of your life?

2. Your Worth Isn’t and Doesn’t Have to Be Determined by Others’ Opinions:

Once you have a clear sense of self, this point becomes more powerful. Living in unfamiliar environments where no one knew my past or held expectations, taught me to shed the need for external validation. I started conversations on buses, coffee shops, introduced myself to strangers and asked people I just met if they’d want to hang out. We can allow others’ limitations to dictate our happiness and health, or get back in the driver’s seat to choose our route and experiences. 

Practice: Reflect on times you felt your worth was tied to someone else’s opinion. How did it hold you back? What would life look like if you believed you’re worthy to be, do or have what you dream? How would you feel? 

3. Understand Why You Really Compare Yourself:

Self-awareness is key. Knowing the roots of our comparison habits, we can address the underlying issues more effectively. My reflections brought to light how much I took on my parents’ beliefs that resulted in my comparisons E.g. Compared to him/her/them… life is hard, never enough money, we’re poor, only happy if you’re rich or successful. Living overseas, encountering so many individual stories, and a handful who’d started out like my immigrant parents, revealed much of what I was told and heard wasn’t true. It didn’t have to be. I saw how we, our parents and theirs, tend to inherit the perceived limitations of those whom we grow up with and are surrounded by. We must make a conscious decision to transform our internal conversations, choose to recognize we are worthy, believe we are unstoppable and can access unlimited possibilities.

Practice: Journal when you catch yourself comparing someone or a situation. Why do you think it started? Is it a fair comparison? What thoughts popped up? Are they really true? What alternate realities are possible?

4. Detox Time

Years ago I remember this was the first thing I did. Limit or stop consuming anything that causes you to compare yourself – magazines, news or social media. So much can be super-filtered. That woman could be in her aunt’s mansion, she could be using a fancy work car, or on vacation paid for by her parents. When we see these curated moments, our brains tend to simplify and categorize the information, often overlooking crucial context and jumping to generalized conclusions to make sense of what we’re seeing. This can manifest as E.g. Unfair comparisons. Thinking, “I’m not there yet, I’m not as good as…” comparing our year 1, to someone on IG living her dream lifestyle, who’s in year 10 of operating her own business. 

Practice: Turn off social media notifications, uninstall it completely or unfollow accounts that leave you feeling a little sad.

5. It’s You vs. You:

Each of us is responsible for our own happiness and fulfillment, and this empowerment stems from cultivating an internal locus of control. Believing you can influence outcomes, trusting in your abilities, and knowing you can bounce back from challenges – reinforce this internal strength. Ultimately, believing anything is possible starts within.

Practice: Reflect on your achievements, no matter how small you think it is – write it down! Acknowledge the effort, the skills it took and what you’ve gained. You’ve made it to the point you’re at now, where I’m sure you’d have a list of things you’d tell and wish your younger self knew. Celebrate how you’ve grown. 

6. Be Your Own Hype Person:

This builds your self-reliance, empowering self-talk and supports making sustainable lifestyle changes. Practicing this helped me shift focus to point 4, and recognize I am enough. I’ve learnt that you have to be your number one fan, because no one will want your dreams or desires as much as you need to. When you’re clear on how you want to feel, what you want to experience now and in future, it’s easier to laugh more and be playful everyday. 

Practice: Making this fun is key. E.g. Challenge yourself for personal bests – going up the stairs, walking to the train station, meal prep or meeting new people. Catch negative thoughts E.g. “They just bought a brand new car and have this amazing house. I’m so behind in life.” Reframe in the moment – “Everyone’s financial situation and timeline are different. We have different priorities and circumstances. I’m working towards my goals, making progress each day, and I’m doing enough.” 

7. Embody Who You Want to Be, Not Your History:

You’re not that person from high school, or even the “you” of five years ago. Once you start to understand the why behind your comparisons – those old stories and limiting beliefs – you unlock the power to consciously shape who you’re becoming. For too long, I let other people’s labels define me. I made choices based on being the “clingy,” “shy,” and “helpless” person I’d internalized. Thankfully, a few straight-shooters called me out on my self-sabotage. They helped me dig into the roots of those old habits and the negative self-talk that fueled my low self-worth. That’s when I realized we have to live as we intend to, using our past not as a cage, but to propel us forward. 

Practice: Journal about who you want to be in a year from now. What does that version of you need to happen now, in order to achieve your goals? E.g. What is your future self’s outlook on life, what do they do everyday even if they don’t feel like it? 

8. Speak With An Abundance Mindset:

I used to be the complete opposite of this, scarcity minded, constantly worrying about what was never enough. And damn did I learn that it actually works! Your inner and outer world transform, when you choose to believe there’s enough for everyone and that resources are abundant. It negates the beliefs that there’s too much competition, an area is too saturated or that you can’t succeed. A weight lifts off your shoulders, you see success blossom faster through a willingness to share, collaborate and give without expecting something in return. 

Practice: Encourage generosity, share resources, offer support, and focus on both personal and collective growth. 

9. Everyone Is Here to Be Their Own Person:

You’re not here to write someone else’s story, you’re here to produce your own. Once we stop living to meet outside expectations, we increase our capacity to stop, smell the roses and enjoy simply being. Think about your closest friends. What makes them unique? What has been their impact on your life, or in supporting others? Why is the world a better place because they exist? 

Practice: When you start comparing yourself to someone, or what your XYZ person wants for you, tell yourself, “They’re responsible for adding to their own happiness. I’m responsible for adding to mine. We each have the choice to research, sign up, try out, self-teach and do whatever we need to make ‘possible’.” 

10. Be Objective:

Remember, when someone throws judgment or comparison your way, it almost always says more about them than it does about you. Comments often reflect their own beliefs about what’s “right,” “a priority,” or “necessary,” or they might be projecting their own limitations and insecurities onto you. Their story isn’t your truth. To navigate these moments effectively, it’s crucial to step back and analyze the situation with as much clarity as possible, separating their perspective from your reality. 

Practice: In challenging conversations where judgment creeps in, practice compassion and empathy. Strive to be objective by observing their words and behavior without immediately filtering them through your own emotions or past experiences. You can try to understand their viewpoint without necessarily agreeing with it. This allows you to respond thoughtfully and could guide them towards seeing their own potential, the power they hold within.

“I’m not what I think I am. I’m not what you think I am. I’m what I think, you think I am.” 

Charles Horton Cooley nails it right? 

Everyone else is always going to have an opinion. They will have their own expectations and limitations – none of which have to be your reality too. We all get sucked into the scroll, or family gatherings whispering “never enough.” But you’ve got what it takes to rewrite that story, and create exactly what you want. It all comes down to knowing your true self, tuning into your dreams, and realizing your worth isn’t up to anyone else. Comparing prevents you from being truly present, creates more insecurities, and steals all the potential joy you could’ve been experiencing.

You’re here to enjoy this human experience and be your biggest cheerleader! Your power? It’s been waiting for you to own it, to unleash an epic life adventure.

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If you’re the woman in your family with dreams that raise eyebrows because you’re choosing the path less traveled and carving your own – you’re a Trailblazing Daughter: someone who challenges the norm, embraces exploration, and deeply values authenticity. You have a powerful desire to do something different, a yearning for spiritual growth, a need for balance and lasting fulfillment.

But sometimes, that drive and vision can get caught up in self-doubt. Family or friends share their opinions and concerns… Overthinking creeps in, the overwhelm sets in, and suddenly that exciting path ahead feels… daunting. You second-guess your decisions, compare yourself to others, or feel the weight of expectations – both internal and external.

Sound familiar? 

I get it.

My own journey started in Northern Australia, watching my immigrant parents work tirelessly. I saw their struggles, listened to and absorbed their limiting beliefs like a sponge. That talk of never enough – money, food or time, compared to others who seemed better off, outside approval = worthy, only rich people are happy, and paralyzed by the fear of rejection, loss and failure. Survival mode became my daily state too. 

And yet, some part of me craved more than just getting by and wondering if life didn’t have to be so miserable. Despite the angst of leaving everything familiar, I embarked on a near decade adventure across four countries. Nope, it wasn’t always easy. Navigating new ways of life definitely had its share of situations where I thought about calling it quits – couch surfing, going hungry, wondering where and how I was going to live, heartbreak and more. 

But with these experiences, birthed a stronger, resilient, persistent and disciplined – me. I found a new passion, curiosity and appreciation for life, which led to me getting clear on what more I wanted. It helped me understand why everything that I’d been through, mattered, and showed me how trusting yourself opens doors to possibilities you never imagined.

I discovered that when you’re living in harmony with your core values and living for your own dreams, not just someone else’s, EVERYTHING shifts for the better. You stop wishing, wondering and waiting for someone or something to save you. You connect with the right people building uplifting relationships and attracting opportunities that you do want. You laugh more, feeling consistently happier and grateful. You grow to love change and get excited about uncertainty – looking forward to each day that feels like bliss.

Witnessing my own transformation and receiving a theme of feedback along the way, ignited my purpose to help women live their unique vision of success no matter what. 

That’s where I come in as an Empowerment Coach.

I serve Trailblazing Daughters who want to transform the weight of self-doubt that leads to overthinking and overwhelm, into showing up every day with trust, excitement and ease.  

I wanted to be the support that I wish I had early on. Having mentors and being surrounded by like minded people taught me this quickly elevates your energy, and opens up strategies that empower you to believe in yourself enough to go after your desires – where any perceived limitations can be used as pathways to success. These amazing individuals helped me learn to trust in others again, trust myself more and see we do go further together.

Working with a coach isn’t about having someone tell you what to do. It’s about:

Uncovering the Root: Exploring the “why” behind your self-doubt, those deep-seated beliefs that are holding you back.

Building Unshakeable Self-Trust: You’ll learn to tap into your inner wisdom and make decisions with confidence.

Moving Forward with Clarity: We’ll develop strategies to quiet the mental chatter and focus on what truly matters.

Embracing Imperfection: You’ll learn to take action without waiting for everything to be “perfect.”

Living in Alignment: We’ll connect you with your core values, ensuring your daily life reflects what’s truly important to you.

Creating Sustainable Change: You’ll develop practical tools and habits to navigate challenges with grace and flow.

Celebrating Your Unique Path: We’ll honor your needs, desires and trailblazing spirit to own your journey.

As a coach, I serve as your guide, your personal cheerleader, and your accountability partner. Because I know the lasting benefits of creating in a non-judgmental space, open to explore, experiment, and evolve. I believe that you are the ultimate expert on yourself, and my role is to help you unlock that inner wisdom and step into your full potential.

If you’re a Trailblazing Daughter ready to step into a life that’s more meaningful and fulfilling to you I’d love to connect!

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My own journey of living and traveling overseas wasn’t just about seeing new places; it was the all-round teacher I didn’t know I needed. It stripped away the familiar, forced me to grow in ways I never imagined and showed me at any time we can create a new sense of identity that actually loves life, feels consistently happier and confident no matter what.

If you know deep down there has to be more for you, and you feel driven to explore beyond what you’ve been doing even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else – it’s possible and I hear you!

There was so much I learnt, I chose to narrow down on what helped me to achieve a strong sense of inner peace. The below are useful for reflecting on current hurdles, ditching ‘same shit different day’, and stepping into your power. 

Here are my top 10 travel lessons to conquer self-doubt:

1. Your Worth Isn’t and Doesn’t Have to Be Determined by Others’ Opinions

It can be that simple. Living in unfamiliar environments, where no one knew my past or held expectations, taught me to shed the need for external validation. When I’d dwell, feel bothered by someone or something that occurred – I started asking myself, “Should I give that or them my power? Does that or do they deserve to control my energy? How is it I want to be thinking and feeling instead?” We can allow others’ limitations to dictate our happiness and health, or get back in the driver’s seat to determine our path and experiences. 

Takeaway: Choice is your superpower – own it and you’ll see more of your desired reality unfold.

2. Find Your Tribe, Wherever You Are

Connecting with others who “get it” – those who share your values and understand your unconventional path – is vital for feeling supported and seen. If those you grew up with disagree with you ‘changing’ it’s okay. It’s a sign to expand meaningful connections and nurture your curiosity. Even if you’ve felt burned or dealt with people who flake, your goals will feel 10x more doable when you’re surrounded by like minded individuals. They’re more likely to assist you with getting access to resources you need, advocating your efforts and fueling a can-do mindset – essential for your success.

Takeaway: You don’t have to feel alone. Actively seek out connections with individuals on the same page who will uplift and inspire you, connecting at least every fortnight/bi-weekly.

3. Cultivate Deep Appreciation

For those of us lucky to be raised in a first world country it’s easy to forget and take for granted everyday comforts – a cozy bed, reliable utilities, even access to a phone and bank account. When you see how people can live with kids in houses made of scraps and still be smiling, it puts things into perspective. When we quit constantly complaining about “everything” that isn’t working, we can shift focus to see “everything” can look a whole lot brighter. 

Takeaway: Practice gratitude and appreciation for the seemingly small things – what you get to do and experience. Solutions are there if we seek them, and positive shifts in your mindset and energy happens when you choose a perspective that is life supporting. 

4. Remember Each Individual Has Their Own Story and Is on a Journey for Their Personal Evolution

We’ve all had different upbringings, exposure to cultural norms, events and communication styles, that influence our level of self-awareness. You’ll encounter some or many who won’t agree with your lifestyle choices or goals – hence #2 being imperative. It’s easier to assume, ‘they’re slow,’ ‘I don’t know why she can’t…,’ ‘how can they not understand?’ An individual’s response to your ideas, abilities or other, will be relative to their experiences. If something didn’t work out for them, doesn’t mean it can’t work out for you. 

Takeaway: Practice non judgment, approach others with compassion and meet them where they’re at.

5. Feedback is a Fuel for Growth

When you’re fully outside your comfort zone, constructive criticism becomes invaluable for navigating new social and professional landscapes. Way back I used to get so offended, and take to heart whatever someone said to me instead of looking at it objectively. When we stop viewing what we’re told as a personal attack or ‘everyone hates me,’ it’s easier to develop positive thought processes, resulting in a desirable state of being. 

Takeaway: Anything anyone says to you is feedback, an opportunity to learn and evolve in harmony with how you intend to.

6. Embrace Radical Transparency

Navigating new cultures and systems demands clear and honest communication. First get clear on what your core values and desires are – helpful to break people pleasing habits too. Honor them and you avoid unnecessary frustration, regret and overthinking, by saying what you mean to say. This will also give you a clear contrast on what you want, by eliminating focus on what you don’t want. 

Takeaway: Speak your truth with clarity and kindness, looking at ways to help both parties benefit.

7. Impermanence Makes Life Beautiful

Life overseas throws curveballs, just as it can locally. It shows you the only thing certain is this moment right now. If things were meant to stay the same and always go according to plan, we’d be bored, miss out on being amazed and not grow in the ways we need to for our personal evolution. Change = variety. As humans it’s our desire for this and more that has brought us this far and continues to. Viewing uncertainty as beautiful dissolves fear and replaces it with excitement. 

Takeaway: Practice expecting best case scenarios. E.g. If you’re working on a passion project for 20 hrs/week and ‘hating’ the 9 to 5 you’re currently in, smile and remind yourself, “That job is funding the start of my dream career/lifestyle.”

8. Time Is Your Most Valuable Currency

When you’re on a limited visa, you become incredibly intentional about how and who you spend your time with. What we choose in all aspects – from our career to relationships and activities – is an investment of our energy. Knowing you can’t get time back is enough reason to stop saying yes to what doesn’t feel good, isn’t in harmony with your values, and won’t benefit your whole health in the long term. 

Takeaway: ‘Later,’ ‘only when,’ ‘what if it doesn’t,’ can deprive you of more joy than anything or anyone outside of you. Prioritize what really matters to you now.

9. It’s Happening For You not To You

Living abroad involves periods of solitude, logistical challenges and navigating unfamiliar systems that push you to feel comfortable as yourself, when no one’s around. Instead of wanting to default-freak-out, turn around situations that make you want to break down, call it quits and wonder what’s the point, shift it to this is why I’ll be stronger, more resilient and capable. When we stop wondering, ‘why is this happening to me?’ it’s easier to bounce back and realize you’re more capable than you give yourself credit for. 

Takeaway: Ask yourself, how can I use this? How can I look at this to strengthen my thoughts and empower my decisions? How can I empathize with XYZ? How can this help me improve XYZ? How will this add to my abilities?

10. You’re Already Complete

You are a whole individual. Anyone or anything is a compliment to your life, as you are to theirs. Thinking that something or someone is our reason for living, or is what makes us complete, can set us up for more pain, disappointment and extend the belief that we’re unworthy ‘unless’. The biggest illusion is believing our emotions or sense of completeness come from external sources. They originate within us, whole and valid regardless of circumstance – despite societal expectations, standards, and conditioning us to seek validation externally through status and achievement. 

Takeaway: You are complete, worthy and ever-evolving, here to enjoy this human experience. 

You might be wondering about the relevance, if living overseas isn’t your immediate goal. The essence of these lessons transcends physical travel; it’s about the mindset cultivated when you step outside your comfort zone. It empowers you to break free from limitations, accept guidance from your inner compass and trust the process of self-discovery. 

Mental and emotional exploration unlocks your potential to create a life aligned with your authentic self, right here and now.

Remember: You’re not starting from scratch; you’re starting from experience. 

Who you were doesn’t define who you are becoming, and your past doesn’t dictate your future. Even the toughest times or hurtful comments don’t define you – you do. Like a diamond, you’ve been forged under pressure and emerge stronger. 

Perfect doesn’t exist, and life inevitably has challenges. Instead of getting stuck trying to understand why, the power and joy lies in moving forward, using your experiences to benefit yourself, anyone or anything you care to positively impact.

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As immigrants, my parents often reminded us of their sacrifices and the importance of following a traditional path: go to school, get a good job, and earn well. The focus wasn’t on passion or goals, but on hard work and survival, to one day help our parents. While this taught me to be self-reliant, it also unintentionally made me see a career as just a way to pay bills – often a source of complaint and dread. Questioning the need for formal education, I even dropped out of high school, later needing extra study to get into university and fulfill my parents’ expectations.

My upbringing’s traditional mindset faced a challenge when I moved to Toronto in 2012, where my Bachelor’s degree and work experience didn’t carry the same weight as local qualifications. At 24, I found myself finally having to dig deep and answer: “What do I want to be?” I had zero clue about a suitable title or career path and felt stuck by the many options linked to my degree.

Fast forward and cue Drake’s “Started from the bottom now we here!” I went from feeling 10 steps back in my first job in Canada at a coffee shop (similar to my 15-year-old self), to landing a role at an amazing sports marketing agency. Yet, even with incredible opportunities and good pay, the question “What do you want to do?” still stumped me. I was unfulfilled and unsure of my next step. When I thought I was finally progressing in my career, my application for Permanent Residency after six years of being in Canada was denied, a devastating blow that meant starting over elsewhere.

During my years away from Australia, these significant changes – letting go of past identities, possessions, and relationships – led me to notice activities I’d repeatedly engage in, which ultimately pushed me to address something I’d previously overlooked. The following steps helped me overcome overwhelm and I believe they hold the key to finding a career path that feels genuinely right for us. The first step might seem basic, but it’s incredibly powerful. Often, we initially struggle to trust it, as external doubts cloud our judgment, urging us to prioritize immediate pay, title, and social standing instead.

Here is my 10-step guide – the same one that helped me and can empower you – to discover a career path you’ll love, integrating your passion and purpose:

1. Tap into your joy

Forget focusing on what you dislike. Turn your attention to what brings you genuine joy and feels easy. What could you do for hours without pay, simply because you love it? What do you often research online? Your passion and excitement are clues to what you’re meant to create. 

Action: This week, dedicate time to activities you genuinely enjoy. Notice how they make you feel and journal about what aspects support your life. We live in an age with more possibilities than ever before.

2. Align with Your Truth

What are your core values? What lifestyle and daily state of being do you truly desire? Do you prioritize stability, creativity, impact, or something else? Often, we try so hard to meet others’ expectations that we lose sight of our own priorities. Understanding this and your long-term goals will help you filter career options.

Action: Identify your top 3-5 core values. Then, consider how these might already connect with what excites you.

3. Reflect on Your Story

Something I didn’t appreciate sooner was how far I’d come. You’re likely not the same person you were two, five, or ten years ago. You’ve experienced laughter, tears, heartache, and moments of clarity – all shaping who you are and how you make decisions. The only one to compare yourself to is you. 

Action: What’s something you once thought you’d never overcome, but you did? Reflect on what it was, what you learned, and how you are better now because of it.

4. Seek Honest Feedback from Your Tribe

They’ve seen you through tough times, no BS. It’s common to feel unsure of our own abilities while easily recognizing the strengths in others. 

Action: Reach out to 5-10 friends and/or colleagues for specific feedback on your strengths and descriptive words they associate with you. Notice consistent themes. For example, if many highlight your ability to organize and motivate, that could point towards leadership or project management roles. Have they suggested a specific role or type of work they could see you doing, which you might’ve secretly thought of but were too embarrassed to share?

5. Reflect on How You Best Express Yourself

Is it through writing, singing, or speaking? Understanding your natural form of expression can accelerate your career search, whether within a company or independently. 

Action: Sometimes, doing a certain job for too long can make us forget what naturally flows for us. Pay attention to what feels good. E.g. conversations about achieving goals. Analyzing or coming up with solutions.

6. Reflect on Any Blocks That Stopped You in the Past

From pursuing or continuing with your interests. We often sabotage potential opportunities and desired outcomes before they even begin.

Action: Journal about what these blocks are. E.g. Quick Assumptions About Income: Fear of lower initial earnings, it ‘never making enough.’ XYZ taking ‘too long’ or you’re ‘too old’ to start. For each block, reflect on if it’s really true. What other possibilities exist?

7. Mind Map Your Career History (and Beyond)

Write down your past three roles. For each, list your tasks and responsibilities. Highlight what you genuinely enjoyed. Then, brainstorm other activities or roles you’ve always been curious about.

Action: Create a mind map of your past experiences and future interests. Look for connections and recurring themes in the tasks you enjoyed.

8. Leverage Learning Resources

The internet offers endless resources like websites, online courses, and libraries! Step away from social media, fuel your curiosity, and explore fields you love or dismissed because others said they were unrealistic. Reading can challenge your assumptions, reignite old passions or new ones.

Action: Identify one area you’re curious about and dedicate 30 minutes this week to exploring online articles, books, or introductory courses related to it.

9. Acknowledge It’s Not Always ‘Forever’

One reason we hesitate to pursue what we love as a career is the assumption that it must be our lifelong commitment. Just like promotions and salary increases, your initial career idea will likely evolve over time. E.g. Starting with one service in your own business will allow you to specialize, become skilled, get feedback, and then expand – creating digital products, collaborating, or even changing your focus entirely. It provides a foundation instead of investing heavily in something you’re unsure people need. 

Action: Reflect on your journey and journal about three things you thought would last ‘forever’ but didn’t, and your positive takeaways. E.g. Dealing with mean girls in high school, you decided to be open to meeting or helping others. Or, your three-year degree quickly led to six years in one or two professional roles.

10. Just Start Something!

I’ve had over 22 jobs in various industries to get here. Seriously! Nothing provides clarity like trial and error. Many recommend this but hesitate, needing a ‘perfect’ setup – which is why step 6 is important.  E.g. If you’re interested in social media, sign up for a scheduler tool, connect your accounts, and learn how to use it. Prioritize staying updated on trends during breaks or after work. Ask everyone if they or someone they know needs a social media manager, or offer some free services to get started. Action builds momentum and helps you get unstuck. 

Action: Reflect on your journey after trying the above steps. Journal – is there a thread that connects all these steps, with what you love and would be open to doing? Take the first step this week, even if it’s just research or reaching out to someone who can support you.

Navigating your career isn’t always a straight line. 

This process, with courage, healing, optimism, and a willingness to refine, can lead you to the path meant for you.

Finding the “perfect” job isn’t the immediate goal. First, focus on understanding yourself and making intentional choices that align with your true holistic desires. The “how” will often fall into place as you take actions in harmony with these. 🙌 This helps us avoid much frustration, confusion and unwanted stress that comes from doing something for the sake of it E.g. Holding on for one more year so your resume looks more impressive, despite bodily aches, pains or sleeplessness telling you you’ve had enough/quit now. Or, hearing yourself complain everyday after work, living for the weekend vs. feel like you’re stoked for everyday.

If you have other responsibilities and can’t necessarily quit something you dislike straight away, you can still start a passion based business simultaneously. Transition when it begins to earn equivalent to your day job income. If you have a partner or spouse encouraging you to do what makes you happy, I’ve known others who are able to quit and do their own thing until it brings in funds. Or if you’re an all in person, you can take the leap and have a casual or part time job on the side of your desired career to support it.

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